Writer: Amina Nawaz
According to general opinion, women are considered as an oppressed class in our society. But if the situation is examined carefully, the oppressed section of our society is not the women but the men. Of course, this is a surprising revelation, but it is also a fact. From a very young age, boys are taught certain things in the name of training which greatly affect their personal development and personal opinion. For example, boys don’t cry, boys don’t do housework, this work is only for women, boys are more capable and intelligent than girls, boys are better than girls in every respect, etc. The birth of a son in one’s home is considered a source of blessing and pride and an excuse to test a daughter or taunt her mother. Even today, people in our society hesitate to congratulate someone on the birth of a daughter and do not think it is appropriate to express happiness. Sometimes it even reaches here
Our society, despite giving utmost importance to sons, pays little attention and effort to their character building and training. From a very early age, a heavy burden of being a man is placed on them, which they carry and spend their entire lives proving themselves as “men”. When a sixteen-year-old girl does not keep her room clean, she is told that she has to go “next” home one day so she can organize herself, but when a sixteen-year-old boy keeps his room dirty, because No such pressure is put on him, so his mother keeps cleaning his room herself, hoping that after her son’s marriage, his wife will come and do the same. This is the time when girls learn to adopt the principle of “help yourself” while boys are taught to depend on others for even basic tasks. Away for the parents, the boy should get up and bring a glass of water for himself is considered defective. Because this practice is considered against his “masculinity” and because there is no pressure on girls to prove themselves as women, they are comfortable in this matter.
Our society also teaches men to have a negative attitude towards women and this is also considered to be “men’s glory”. Mothers are usually taught to adopt a positive attitude, but boys rarely do. They tease mother all their life and when they get married, suddenly they realize that mother is very important. Then he says to his wife that if you will serve my mother then I will be happy with you and not a servant. But men themselves never think of serving their mother. The fact is that a man who has truly served his mother, i.e. a woman, also takes care of another woman and he who has not served his mother. He can’t take care of any other woman. Our society talks a lot about the greatness of the mother, but when it comes to serving her, the help of another woman is taken, for example, a daughter or a daughter-in-law. Poor men
Similarly, there is no special positive attitude towards sisters and there is no religious order in this regard. There is no special religious order about the wife either. But we can infer that God wants men to treat their wives well. On the one hand, God wants us not to be disrespectful to our parents, to treat our neighbors well, to be kind to travelers on our journey, to treat orphans and the poor with kindness and to help them. Don’t beat the right, let’s treat our employees gently, feed them as we eat ourselves, forgive their seventy mistakes and go to sleep. But on the other hand, would God want you to come home in the evening and beat your wife? Surely not. God has given so many people who sometimes have no special importance in our life or who will never meet us again, such as those we travel with, the poor, the poor, the employed, etc., whose We do not have any relationship with them, we have ordered to treat them well. God will not command to have a negative attitude towards the Twins.
When two people get married, the woman considers the man as her guardian and crown, and the man also considers himself as the crown and virtual deity of his wife. But in the eyes of both of them, the meanings of guardian are completely different. According to the wife, guardian means the protector, while the husband thinks that guardian means the ruler or the one who governs all the affairs of the wife. God has made the husband a guardian. A guardian is someone who wants you to improve, protects you and respects you both in front of the world and in private. On the other hand, God has also given the authority to the wife that if she does not want to earn or serve her husband’s parents, she will not be asked about it. If she breastfeeds her children, educates them, she can also demand compensation from her husband in return. All these things indicate that the wife from all sides has been saved. Apart from this, the wife also fulfills the romantic desires of the husband and the person you romance with should be well received.
But men generally prefer to sit around and say to their friends that they don’t care about their wife at all because society gives them a blanket permission to say so. A man never wants to say that he cares for someone, but he wants to be cared for. Just as when a person applies for a job, he does not say that he has applied for a job at such and such a place but prefers to say that he has been offered a job at such and such a place. Similarly, husbands also like to say that my wife yearns for me and cares a lot about me, but I don’t yearn. He feels ashamed to say that he loves and cares for his wife very much. The wife also fulfills the romantic desires of the husband and whoever you romance with should be well received. But men generally prefer to sit around and say to their friends that they don’t care about their wife at all because society gives them a blanket permission to say so. A man never wants to say that he cares for someone, but he wants to be cared for. Just as when a person applies for a job, he does not say that he has applied for a job at such and such a place but prefers to say that he has been offered a job at such and such a place.
Similarly, husbands also like to say that my wife yearns for me and cares a lot about me, but I don’t yearn. He feels ashamed to say that he loves and cares for his wife very much. The wife also fulfills the romantic desires of the husband and whoever you romance with should be well received. But men generally prefer to sit around and say to their friends that they don’t care about their wife at all because society gives them a blanket permission to say so. A man never wants to say that he cares for someone, but he wants to be cared for. Just as when a person applies for a job, he does not say that he has applied for a job at such and such a place but prefers to say that he has been offered a job at such and such a place. Similarly, husbands also like to say that my wife yearns for me and cares a lot about me, but I don’t yearn. He feels ashamed to say that he loves and cares for his wife very much. Romance should be done well. But men generally prefer to sit around and say to their friends that they don’t care about their wife at all because society gives them a blanket permission to say so. A man never wants to say that he cares for someone, but he wants to be cared for.
Just as when a person applies for a job, he does not say that he has applied for a job at such and such a place but prefers to say that he has been offered a job at such and such a place. Similarly, husbands also like to say that my wife yearns for me and cares a lot about me, but I don’t yearn. He feels ashamed to say that he loves and cares for his wife very much. Romance should be done well. But men generally prefer to sit around and say to their friends that they don’t care about their wife at all because society gives them a blanket permission to say so. A man never wants to say that he cares for someone, but he wants to be cared for. Just as when a person applies for a job, he does not say that he has applied for a job at such and such a place but prefers to say that he has been offered a job at such and such a place. Similarly, husbands also like to say that my wife yearns for me and cares a lot about me, but I don’t yearn. He feels ashamed to say that he loves and cares for his wife very much. don’t care at all because society openly allows them to say so.
A man never wants to say that he cares for someone, but he wants to be cared for. Just as when a person applies for a job, he does not say that he has applied for a job at such and such a place but prefers to say that he has been offered a job at such and such a place. Similarly, husbands also like to say that my wife yearns for me and cares a lot about me, but I don’t yearn. He feels ashamed to say that he loves and cares for his wife very much. don’t care at all because society openly allows them to say so. A man never wants to say that he cares for someone, but he wants to be cared for. Just as when a person applies for a job, he does not say that he has applied for a job at such and such a place but prefers to say that he has been offered a job at such and such a place. Similarly, husbands also like to say that my wife yearns for me and cares a lot about me, but I don’t yearn. He feels ashamed to say that he loves and cares for his wife very much. has applied but prefers to say that he has been offered a job by such and such a place. Similarly, husbands also like to say that my wife yearns for me and cares a lot about me, but I don’t yearn. He feels ashamed to say that he loves and cares for his wife very much.
Has applied but prefers to say that he has been offered a job by such and such a place. Similarly, husbands also like to say that my wife yearns for me and cares a lot about me, but I don’t yearn. He feels ashamed to say that he loves and cares for his wife very much. Our society allows a man to go after a woman before marriage, to get her attention, to impress her or to “tam” her, but when the same woman becomes a wife, the husband is called a “man”. ” is ordered to be made. If a boy waits for hours to catch a glimpse of a girl outside her college before marriage, he is given the title of “hero”. But the same guy also thinks it’s his duty to wait a few minutes outside his wife’s office after the wedding to pick her up during her vacation. He can’t even open the car door for her. Thinking that his wife will be waiting for him at home, the husband cannot even express his desire to rush home from the gathering of friends in the evening because the society taunts him for being afraid of his wife.
Our society may allow the husband to raise his hands openly on his wife, but When returning from a trip abroad, people at the airport do not allow hugging only one wife standing in a long queue. A husband can also make fun of his wife and criticize her in order to gain superiority over his wife in front of everyone. But he hesitates to sit in the party and say a few words of praise to his wife because he is afraid of being called “down” by his wife. A woman’s honor is protected and talked about a lot, but what should be done about the honor of men which is so insecure that for the sake of saving this honor, he can neither cry openly nor express his sorrows. He cannot express himself nor can he do all his work by himself. He is only allowed to express anger openly. He can make fun of his wife and criticize her to gain superiority. But he hesitates to sit in the party and say a few words of praise to his wife because he is afraid of being called “down” by his wife.
A woman’s honor is protected and talked about a lot, but what should be done about the honor of men which is so insecure that for the sake of saving this honor, he can neither cry openly nor express his sorrows. He cannot express himself nor can he do all his work by himself. He is only allowed to express anger openly. He can make fun of his wife and criticize her to gain superiority. But he hesitates to sit in the party and say a few words of praise to his wife because he is afraid of being called “down” by his wife. A woman’s honor is protected and talked about a lot, but what should be done about the honor of men which is so insecure that for the sake of saving this honor, he can neither cry openly nor express his sorrows. He cannot express himself nor can he do all his work by himself.
He is only allowed to express anger openly. What should be done with his honor which remains so insecure that he can neither cry openly, nor express his sorrow openly, nor do all his work himself for the sake of saving this honor. can He is only allowed to express anger openly. What should be done with his honor which remains so insecure that he can neither cry openly, nor express his sorrow openly, nor do all his work himself for the sake of saving this honor. can He is only allowed to express anger openly.
The truth is that our society has done a great injustice to men by putting a heavy burden on them to prove themselves as “men”. And not only men but also women are involved in this cruelty. Mothers themselves have a very important role to play in this type of training for men. From the very beginning, they prefer their sons to their daughters, due to which men consider themselves as superior creatures and think it is illegal to oppress women, and women consider themselves as inferior creatures and bear that cruelty. Remember that violence is not only physical but also emotional and psychological. And the husbands of our society have been inflicting emotional violence on their wives for a long time, and the wives have become accustomed to endure this violence and mentally prepare their future generations that “men are like that”.
The sad thing is that despite this violence, men are not satisfied with their “manhood”. They must hear this voice from their conscience in solitude In fact, there are no higher beings and to silence this voice, they again need “certification” from women that they are men. And this series of violence continues in the same way. It is true that men have to pay a heavy price for being “men”. Even after all these years, the fruit of self-respect does not fall in their cradle. A man is definitely more oppressed than a woman, so he deserves more effective bait, help and sympathy than a woman.