All of us have been verbally assaulted at some point in our lives. Insulting or belittling someone using words or silence is an example of such an attack. Calling others bad, making fun of them, hurting their feelings, threatening or accusing them are some forms of this type of aggression. Verbal attacks can also be disguised as jokes that are meant to humiliate others. People who engage in verbal abuse are skilled at changing the subject. They do not give victims of violence the opportunity to talk about things that are important to them. This type of verbal aggression is usually seen between parents, husband and wife, close friends and relatives.
Verbal abuse is actually a type of emotional and psychological attack. Such emotional abuse also comes in the form of talking badly about the victims behind their backs. Emotional abuse can also be non-verbal in nature. For example, slamming a door also shows aggression and insult. No form of verbal or emotional abuse can be justified. There is a need to improve the way of communication to resolve these conflicts and to avoid such conflicts in future. Usually the easiest way to deal with a verbal abuser is to talk them through the rules. Whenever someone talks negatively about us, our natural reaction is to convince them that they are wrong. But the reality is that you can’t actually talk about principles with a verbal abuser.
The most effective way to end verbal abuse is to ignore any abuse and bad behavior from the attacker. If someone blames you for something you didn’t do, you need to ignore it and calmly tell the abuser to stop. Firmly telling the abuser that they are violating your rights can be very effective. For example, if a friend of yours accuses you of being late to an event due to traffic, it will be impossible to deal with his anger through explanations. Instead, strongly express to your friend that it is completely unacceptable for you to treat him badly over something that is outside of your influence.
In some situations, abusers will not be able to change their behavior significantly even with this response. When these tactics don’t work, the only effective way to deal with verbal abuse is to physically distance yourself from the attacker. Distancing yourself indicates that you will not tolerate the abuser’s negative behavior. If the verbal abuse still does not decrease, then it is a wise decision to end the relationship with such a person temporarily or completely. Ending a relationship with a verbal abuser is not that easy. If you are financially or otherwise dependent on the abuser, it is not easy to leave the relationship. In such situations, there is a need to minimize contact with the abuser in order to avoid the abuse or at least minimize its harmful effects. Try to meet them only when other people are around you.